Knock You Down

Hello everyone! I just wanted to apologize for not updating for such a long time! I’ve been listening to Keri Hilson’s songs lately. Her album is perfect. All her lyrics are so meaningful and the beat is great, so get her CD now!!

Today’s post is inspired by one of her songs: Knock you down featuring Kanye West and Ne-yo.

It’s true. Love knocks you down, bruises your heart and leaves a mark. But you’re still breathing and living right? Your life is not over just because he’s no longer with you. Love comes around and will knock you down again. You will feel the same heartbreaking experience. Even the bruises and marks left behind can sometimes be worse than your last one.

Despite everything that’s happened, just get back up again. Get that tub of ice cream out of your hands and get back on your feet! Don’t let this feeling stop you from searching for the right one. Sometimes it’s hard for you to be in a relationship because you’re afraid to get hurt again. It’s okay though; take some time to heal yourself. You know what, why not take a break? Have a fling? Spend more time with friends and family. You don’t need to go straight back into the love & relationships scene. So when you feel ready to date again, go for it! Who knows, maybe he’ll be the last guy to knock you down.

Keep rockin’ keep knockin’!

Three Way Loves

Holla to GG fans out there! Today’s post is inspired by the recent episode of Gossip Girl. Finally, there’s more airtime for Chuck and Blair – I really missed them (Yes I’m rooting for Bhuck). Anyways, the love triangle between Blair, Chuck, and Nate is utterly complicated. It seems that Blair is trying to make “trust” work between her and Nate. However, Nate can’t help but get jealous of her speaking to his best buddy, and we all know that Chuck still has feelings for Blair.

*Take a deep breath* I seriously hate three way loves because in the end, your decision will end up hurting someone. First of all, stop telling yourself to do the “right thing”. It’s unpleasant to avoid feelings for the third party, especially, if that person has strong feelings for you too. So stop lying to yourself.

I’m not saying you should cheat. I’m saying that you should be honest to yourself first. You’ve got to sort your feelings out and figure out who you truly want to be with. I understand it’s not a simple task, but you’ve got to complete this before taking the next step.

When you finally figure everything out, the first thing you should do is confess to the guy you don’t have feelings for. It’s going to be hard. Nobody enjoys the feeling of getting hurt. It may bite him now, but if you had waited any longer to confess it might hurt him even more because who knows how deep he has fallen for you!

& I assume you should know what’s your next step (:

OMFG. KISSES FROM TWO LOVERS IN ONEDAY?

So Blair, who will you bring back to your castle, the white knight or the dark prince?

xoxo butter

Clingy Boyfriends

Clingy guys can be good or bad. The good thing is that they will always be there for you. The bad thing is that sometimes it can just get really annoying. Clingy boys are really quite complicated. Some girls love it and some girls just hate it. No offense intended for those girls out there who love clingy boys because we’ve all got our preferences.

Anyways, another important fact about a healthy relationship is s p a c e. If you’re really into him and he’s getting too clingy for you, just tell him you need some space to breathe! Tell him to stop calling 24/7, asking the usual questions, where you are and who are you with?! Again, it’s about trust and honesty.

Some tips!
1. Encourage him to chill with his buddies! Tell him he needs more male bonding.
2. Stop being twitter, updating him 24/7. I say communication should be 35-40% of the time between you and him.
3. Tell him that sometime your friends come first, that you need space for them as well.
4. You’re a grown up woman, try being independent. You don’t always need men.
5. Honestly let him know that you love him and that he shouldn’t be afraid of losing you.

 If he continues being clingy and making a big deal out of this, then I suggest he’s not the one for you. He might as well be your stalker than your boyfriend.

Good luck ladies!

Breakin’ Black Berry

Angry? Frustrated? Trying to find a way to let off some steam because your boyfriend is being a jerk? Here’s a piece of advice, do not throw any object that your life depends on directly at him. Seriously, is anger and frustration really worth bashing your precious smart phone? Trust me, it won’t make you feel any better. Maybe at the moment throwing your smart phone felt liberating, but in the end, you probably feel more heartbroken when you can’t turn it back on.

The first thing you need to do is to calm down and stay in control. I know its not always so easy to “chillout,” but you’ve got to learn how to. Show him you can handle the situation properly. Throwing things around the room only shows him that you can’t handle dealing with problems very well. Both of you guys need to sit down and start talking because it’s probably all just a big misunderstanding. Relationships are all about understanding and honesty.

& Breaking dishes is very bad! You might cut yourself when cleaning!

* This is based on my friend’s 1.5 year relationship. Yeah, she threw her Black Berry at him and totally destroyed her smart phone. Its really incredible how her phone is still working.